Dating isn't your problem. Deciding is.

You don't have a shortage of options... you have an infinite amount of them. One more swipe. One more app. One more profile. And somewhere in there we stopped asking "is this someone I can build a life with?" and started asking "could there be someone better one swipe away?"

In Week 4 of our series, It's Complicated, Brad talks to singles about how to date God's way — and reminds married people they never actually stopped dating.

But before the how, hear this: singleness is not a curse to be solved.

It's an opportunity for impact. Paul wished everyone were single, because an unmarried person can move. Our God, named Jesus, changed the whole world — and He did it single. You don't need to find a person to find your purpose. So don't let a waiting season become a wasted season.

Then Brad gets practical. There's not one verse in the Bible about finding the right one, but there's a whole lot about becoming the right one — before Ruth and Boaz ever found each other, she was already a woman of noble character and he was already a man of standing. He throws out the old list and gives a new one. He names seven red flags, because red flags are warnings, not accessories — they don't turn green, they get more red. And he defines what dating actually is: a process to move through, not a status to sit in.

Because you never actually find the one. You choose someone. And the choosing is what makes them the one.

Love isn't a feeling you fall into. It's a choice you keep making.

That's what covenant is.